How do you separate fact from feeling?
Just as thoughts aren’t facts, feelings aren’t either. Emotions provide information, but when that information is intense and loud, we become more vulnerable to believing it reflects reality. We often think, 'I feel it, so it must be true,' but that’s not always the case.
So how do you separate fact from feeling?
Here’s a method to try:
Pause & Acknowledge: Take a moment to simply acknowledge the emotion. It’s important to feel it without judgment.
Check the Story you are telling yourself: Is it based on assumptions or fears? What actual evidence supports this narrative?
Challenge the Feeling: Question whether your feelings truly reflect the current situation. Could there be another interpretation? Are there facts that contradict the emotion?
Separate Fact from Feeling: List the facts of the situation vs. the emotions you are experiencing. Facts are objective and unchanging, while emotions fluctuate.
Use Logic and Evidence: Lean towards logic and tangible evidence when making decisions or evaluating a situation, rather than letting emotions dictate their reality.
Remember, emotions are information, not a final verdict on reality.
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